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In the silence, in the dark, Larissa Pham hears something shift. First comes fear, and then, moments later, a type of clarity.
Jump to. Where does the need to move faster, breathe harder, physically move through what we feel, and achieve catharsis come from? Seeking the beauty in those moments of obliteration, you take off too fast and hit the ground hard when you put your whole body into your wanting. The instinct Honest curvy women wanted for ltr mythologize your desire in this way feels inherent to youth, particularly to people, myself included, who came of age and to writing in the heyday of the first-person industrial complex and Tumblr.
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Pham is familiar with this era because she was there too, as a fellow member in the cult of beautiful suffering, taking pictures of her bruised knees. We mythologize ourselves because asing a narrative to pain, drawing a boundary between the self and the emotion, makes the being bearable. Pop Song takes Adult singles dating in Bordentown relationship and frames it, as writers are wont to do, through the craft of other artists, all people whose work is imbued with deep feeling and blood, both literal and metaphorical.
Because of this tendency to share, Pop Song at times feels more like a letter than a memoir: one from a lover with a copy of their favorite poem tucked in, a gift that says, Here, my words are not enough, but this is what I am trying to describe to you.
The book itself is a document of intense feeling, and Pham documents this catharsis meticulously, both in the moment and retroactively. She takes pictures of her bruises and bloody noses; her college self takes laptop selfies of her tear-stained cheeks, which she sends to her then-boyfriend.
I chose to do this. I wiped my face. I opened the camera. I made a picture of my pain.
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With an indirect gaze, a love poem slipped into a letter or between the s of a borrowed book, Pham asks us—at times begs us—to bear witness. Much of the book lives in the paradox of young adulthood, particularly as a young woman of color, wanting so badly to be witnessed yet unable to bear the weight or meaning of a gaze. Spoken words seem like barriers to be shattered: Pham prefers phone calls, letters, photos with no text attached on a shared Sweet wife seeking sex Laconia —all mediums of communication that obscure the face, ostensibly so the feeling shows through clearer.
Maybe this is the role of a memoir, too, a way Housewives looking sex tonight MI Wyoming 49509 averting the gaze while disclosing yourself. By recreating a moment of absolute feeling, Pham takes your head in her hands, looks you in the eyes, and makes her desire known.
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Something that reached out to me with a hand and said, Here. You are not alone.
On her own in a foreign city, she finds herself without witness but still standing, living through the feeling. To get up and step through the door into your own life.
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